From the Back CoverIn a dramatic theoretical breakthrough, psychologist Susan M. Hitler unites various schools of therapy with a powerful insight: Conflicts, within and between people, lie at the core of emotional distress. Emotional healing depends on movement from conflict to resolution; therapists, whatever their belief system, serve as guides along the way. Conflict resolution strategies are described in lively case examples.About the AuthorSusan Heitler, a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, wrote her first book, David Decides About Thumbsucking, to help parents and children to end thumbsucking habits. In her second book, From Conflict to Resolution (1990), Dr. Heitler explained that conflicts can be handled in five main ways. Getting angry yields fights. Giving up yields depression. Doing nothing about a problem sustains anxiety and tension. Avoidance via distraction invites addictions and obsessive-compulsive disorders. The fifth and by far the best option is collaborative problem-solving to create win-win solutions. Dr. Heitler's third book, The Power of Two, teaches win-win communication and problem-solving skills. This biography was provided by the author or their representative. Susan Heitler, a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, wrote her first book, David Decides About Thumbsucking, to help parents and children to end thumbsucking habits. In her second book, From Conflict to Resolution (1990), Dr. Heitler explained that conflicts can be handled in five main ways. Getting angry yields fights. Giving up yields depression. Doing nothing about a problem sustains anxiety and tension. Avoidance via distraction invites addictions and obsessive-compulsive disorders. The fifth and by far the best option is collaborative problem-solving to create win-win solutions. Dr. Heitler's third book, The Power of Two, teaches win-win communication and problem-solving skills. In addition, Dr. Heitler's audio CD's on anxiety, depression and couples' skills offer new perspectives for individuals who want to live more emotionally comfortable lives. Dr. Heitler's own family attests to the effectiveness of the techniques she writes about. She and her husband, married over 35 years, have successfully raised four children, three of whom now run a company that teaches Power of Two skills over the internet. The large extended family of which Dr. Heitler and her husband are now matriarch and patriarch includes 8 grandchildren who love to gather and play together. how do i make a design portfolio From Conflict to Resolution:Skills and Strategies for Individuals, Couples, and Family Therapy
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful. ... to me and I am always looking for the best resources to help me out in bringing marital harmonyBy Ken D.My marriage is the most important thing in the world to me and I am always looking for the best resources to help me out in bringing marital harmony. I have spent countless hours talking with therapists, researching marital practices, and reading books on how best to make marriage work. If I could point anyone who is in a relationship that is going through hard times to one resource, it would be this book. Honestly, even if your relationship is strong, the principles in here will still be very helpful.First and foremost, understand that this is a book written by a therapist to other therapists to teach them how best to work with individuals or couples who are struggling, particularly in relationships though. Even though I'm not a therapist, I bought the book and read it anyway and it turned out to be incredibly enlightening as to why some of the struggles that I've faced for years have been happening. Dr. Heitler teaches that the inability to resolve conflict (conflict not meaning arguing, but meaning differences in opinion and desires both interpersonally and intrapsychically) is what leads to depression, anxiety and other mental health issues in a lot of cases. (Quick note--she doesn't state that this is the only cause of depression, just the cause for many people).I found the first 10 or so chapters to be the best material I've ever found on marital or internal discord. The last third or so of the book she gets into therapy techniques, which is still very helpful, but slightly less so since I'm not a trained therapist. The first two-thirds is easy for anyone to follow, regardless of whether you are a therapist though, since she is outlining the circumstances and sharing the ineffective ways that the majority of us attempt to resolve conflict (and ultimately fail at).I wish I could put this in the hands of every person who feels hopeless, like there is a "dark cloud" over their life, or feels inexplicably depressed. There is a lot more in our power than we realize and these things can be solved, as Dr. Heitler teaches here.9 of 9 people found the following review helpful. Outstanding BookBy Kevin AdamsI love this book. There are several chapters in this book that have helped me understand human behavior better than any other book I have read. I am a lawyer and I have purchased several copies of this book for various clients.0 of 1 people found the following review helpful. This is a very heavy read and hard to follow ...By Christopher Troy TaylorThis is a very heavy read and hard to follow along! More of a clinical book for other therapists not for just the common person