From Publishers WeeklyIn their second book together (after From Me to You: The Reluctant Writers Guide to Powerful, Personal Messages), counselors Morris and Flair offer a somewhat unconventional solution to romantic woesif your partner wont face up to a particular problem, they say, start by trying to fix it yourself. Approaching a conflict with six basic questions, such as "What are my negative feelings?," "Why do I want to work things out?" and "How would I like things between us to be?," one half of an unhappy couple can put a new twist on an argument and offer fresh perspective and hope. Working primarily in a coffee shop, Morris and Flair surveyed dozens of acquaintances, friends and volunteers slogging through a slew of potentially disastrous issues: nosy in-laws, religious differences, and difficult or extracurricular sex lives. The book consists mostly of these case studies, along with commentary and "coaching tips" for answering the six questions in positive, constructive ways. Almost every situation considered here ends happily once the cooperative partner completes Morris and Flairs experiment and confronts his or her mate. This might worry those readers who feel their problems cant be solved so easily, but Morris and Flair offer solid advice and present a new line of attack for working through conflicts of any size.Copyright Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.From the Publisher"Wisdom and common sense enriched by well-chosen case studies."--Rabbi Harlold Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People "Like a magician smoothing out a complicated knot with the tips of his fingers, the authors of this book teach a reader how to untangle the unhappiest snarls. With their guidance, you gain the unexpected new angle, the slightly kinder wording; a marriage's dead-end is revealed to have been an optical illusion, the bitter argument with the partner dissolves in laughter. It's not sleight-of-hand so much as a lightness of touch, assertiveness without blame, positive action without hostility. Love needn't be a tug-of-war between winners and losers, but rather a gentle balancing act among equals."--Melissa Fay Greene, author of Praying for Sheetrock, The Temple Bombing and Last Man OutAbout the AuthorJacLynn Morris holds a master's degree in educational counseling from Boston University. She lives in Atlanta, Georgia. Paul L. Fair is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice who specializes in stress disorders, individual psychotherapy and couple's psychotherapy. He is an assistant professor in the Departments of Psychiatry and Rehabilitation Medicine at Emory University School of Medicine in Atlanta, Georgia, where he lives.JacLynn Morris, M.Ed., is a writer, child abuse prevention advocate and public speaker. A graduate of Boston University, over the past thirty years, JacLynn has worked with families in crisis, parents of children with hemophilia and adult survivors of child abuse. Articles she has written have appeared in magazines including Moment Magazine, Writing from the Heart and Personal Journaling. I'm Right. You're Wrong. Now What? is the second book she has co-authored with Dr. Paul L. Fair. JacLynn has appeared at Canyon Ranch in Tucson, AZ; on radio talk shows throughout North America; and as the keynote speaker for numerous groups and professional associations. She lives in Atlanta with her husband of twenty-five years, Bruce H. Morris. They have two grown children. You may learn more about JacLynn's work, read an interview, check upcoming appearances and book signings and correspond with her at: www. jaclynnmorris.com. where can i buy books besides I'm Right. You're Wrong. Now What?: How to Break Through Any Relationship Stalemate
0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. I'm right, You're Wrong, Now What? How to Break Through Any Relationship StalemateBy CharlotteExcellent book with 6 questions to answer for all sorts of relationship problems leading to an amicable solution worked out by yourself. Amazing and easy to do with great results in the many case studies in the book. Every home should have this book.1 of 2 people found the following review helpful. I wouldn't waste my money on thisBy cherrygarciaI read a lot and i put this book down pretty quickly. Not because it read fast but because it seemed a waste of my time. This book didn't engage me some of the scenarios seem out of touch and conclude with overly simplistic resolutions.3 of 3 people found the following review helpful. If you have decided to stay...By Rebecca of "If you are looking for an argument you better pick another subject." ~Ingrid BergmanI think there comes a time in a relationship when the insurmountable problems of daily life compels us forward into a stale mate of souls. Two people living together moving in different directions emotionally, spiritually or even philosophically can confront the unavoidable day of "I'm Right. You're Wrong. Now What?"If you are at the point where you have started to fight for what you truly feel is your right, your destiny, your sanity - then this book might shed some light on the solutions to this overwhelming problem.JackLynn Morris asks six questions to assist the reader in selecting their particular conflict. Are you upset about finances, not getting enough sex, having trouble even discussing problems, dealing with difficult in-laws or thinking about a divorce? She also deals with religious differences, serious health problems and interactions with an ex-spouse. During each discussion, six questions guide you to the answers you need to solve the problems. Case studies and solutions are very helpful and give ideas for your own situation.In this way, you can quickly access the information you need right now. You may only need one or two chapters, or you might want to read the entire book. I think there are few problems as terrible as feeling that your partner doesn't want to stay in the relationship, or at least acts that way to gain control. If you can't trust your partner or even talk to them, then I think in that case a separation may be in order, but for problems that are more of an annoyance or eternally cause conflict, this book has many solutions. There is a section on infidelity and that takes staying to a whole new level.If you still love your partner, I believe anything is possible. If you read this book soon enough, it could prevent the destruction of your relationship and prevent a divorce or dissolution of a relationship that you value highly. Quite a few of the solutions are very effective, I've tried them. I know that to stay married over 10 years is to fight against statistics and I think staying married and being happily married are two different worlds. This book might help you escape from the dark side.~The Rebecca ReviewTrying to stay sane AND married :)