From Publishers WeeklyBodenhamer, a former probation officer who is director of the Back in Control Center in Portland, Ore., believes we are confronting "the worst behaved generation of children in American history." For parents who need to retake charge of their children, he suggests a three-point focus based on "rule-based discipline, supervision and emotional attachment." Offering sound, practical advice on dealing with provocative and manipulative verbal challenges raised by teenagers and early adolescents, he presents a convincing case for giving highly detailed "job descriptions" to teens (if McDonald's has a 600-page operations manual for its employees, parents shouldn't shy from explaining precisely how to take out the garbage). Bodenhamer directly faces such incendiary issues as sex, substance abuse and peer pressure (including that from gangs). Frequently, however, he sounds a reactionary note, as when he rails against the American Civil Liberties Union as the nation's "most persistent enemy of adult authority" and cites "an inherited link between impulsive and immature unwed teenager parents and the impulsive and immature children to whom they give birth." While there is valuable help here, much of it sounds like the stuff of talk radio. Copyright 1995 Reed Business Information, Inc.From the Back CoverParent in Control is based on a highly successful program that has helped thousands of parents regain control over their out-of-control adolescents - whether they wreak havoc at home, in school, or in the community. Living with willful, aggressive, and seemingly incorrigible adolescent behavior is a nightmare many heartbroken and confused parents were forced to endure - until now. In this straightforward, hard-hitting, yet compassionate book, Gregory Bodenhamer, a nationally renowned expert on childhood behavior problems, shows parents how to combat an arsenal that ranges from blatant verbal challenges to physical violence, without resorting to harsh disciplinary measures, expensive counseling, or hospital-based programs. Bodenhamer, a former juvenile probation officer, draws on over twenty years of experience working with difficult children between the ages of 12 and 17 and their parents to offer techniques that work in as little as a few weeks. He covers a wide range of problems - whether your teen is simply ignoring household rules, or perhaps lying, or stealing - to more harmful problems, such as drug and alcohol abuse or unsafe sexual activities. Using real-life scenarios, complete with actual dialogue, Bodenhamer walks you through potentially explosive situations, points out errors most parents frequently make, and provides tested solutions to averting immediate danger - and preventing it from happening again. what genre is the name of this book is secret Parent in Control: Restore Order in Your Home and Create a Loving Relationship with Your Adolescent
0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. Help improve my communication with my teen and pre-teenBy Sheila SalinasThis book was very helpful not just for parents of juvenile delinquents for all parents. It stresses how fast a child can go from displaying good value learned from their family to becoming completely out of control. It helped with facilitating productive conversation with your teen while avoiding arguments. There were different scenarios depending on how your teen responds to you. They worked! I tried them on my kids. They seemed so simple too. I didn't think they would be effective.1 of 1 people found the following review helpful. Good informationBy L. BauerThis book gives you advise that really helps with kids that argue with you and make bad decisions. It basically says for you to set the rules and follow through to the end. Being a parent can be very hard work and sometimes as parents we think it should be easier. We forget how a childs mind works and also that children have not had all the life experience as we do. The book goes over steps that help you get your kids to do what they are told to do. It helped me figure a few things out and I recommend it.0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. Five StarsBy judy l. woodExcellent guide and information. Very well written and easy to read with actual case study examples.