"What I like about this book is its positive tone and no-holds barred information about how to parent children so that they will develop their potential and learn structure. All parents will find this book immensely practical and useful. I highly recommend it." -Harville Hendrix, Ph. D., author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, and co-author with Helen LaKelly Hunt of Giving the Love that Heals: A Guide for Parents "This is a compelling, engrossing and informative read. It combines the practical with the analytical, making you understand what to do with developing children and why. The content and format make it accessible and consumer friendly. No parent should miss this resource as a necessity and a comfort."-Janice Weinman, Ed.D., president, Kids in Distressed Situations, Inc. (K.I.D.S.), former executive vice president, The College Board, special assistant to the U.S. Secretary of Education"In this important book, weary parents will quickly learn to pick their combative engagements properly-in order not to become battle-fatigued in the foxholes of family life. Dr. Maslin has designed a balancing act for child-rearing that is parent-friendly and child-sensitive. And now, these triumphant care-takers will be able to deliver to the world fully-functioning children who will become adults that are loving, mature, self-responsible, disciplined, and endowed with wisdom gained from winning strategies that abound in Bonnie's kidology concepts."-Dr. Gwendolyn Goldsby Grant, psychologist, parent, advice columnist Essence magazine, and author of The Best Kind of Loving"For real estate, the credo is 'location, location, location.' For parent books, it is 'practical, practical, practical.' Bonnie Maslin in Picking Your Battles takes knowledge and turns it into steps of effective wisdom. Children taught discipline by parents are thus helped to avoid the later much harsher discipline required when taught by life."-John E. Schowalter, M.D., Albert J. Solnit Professor Emeritus, Yale University Child Study Center"Picking Your Battles is a wonderful book. Bonnie Maslin has a gift for making the challenges of parenting easier and more rewarding. Dr. Maslin has used her own experiences as a parent and grandparent and years of clinical practice to make Picking Your Battles easy to read and an essential book for all parents. It will help parents to be better informed and more likely to find parenting easier, more fun and more rewarding." -Harold S. Koplewicz, M.D., Founder and Director, New York University Child Study Center, Arnold and Debbie Simon Professor of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, NYU School of Medicine"Dr. Bonnie Maslin has done it again. Knitting together years of expertise, nuggets of wisdom, and superb intuition, Picking Your Battles is a reader-friendly way to help hurried and embattled parents create a stress-free homelife. This delightfully written strategic guide is perfect for parents who would rather hug than fight." -Professor Kathy Hirsh-Pasek, author of Einstein Never Used Flashcards and How Babies Talk"This is an incredibly powerful book for parents because it speaks their language and it gives them examples of the very thing they may be struggling with when they read it. It is written in a direct, honest, non-judgmental, and open manner and affords the reader the opportunity to consider their own behavior without blame and without a sense of having 'harmed' their child. Dr. Maslin has done a superb job in writing a book about child development that is not pedantic but, rather, it is a caring, sensitive book which stresses the need for people to think about their own feelings and their own experiences when dealing with their children. It is a must for all parents."-Paul Jay Fink, MD/professor of psychiatry, Temple University School of Medicine, past president of the American Psychiatric Association"The book is marvelous. It's funny and real. This is the first book I've read about parents and kids that tells it like it is and offers insights that you can really put to work in real life. It's written with verve and wit, and I am going to recommend it to the families I work with."-Susanna Morgenthau, family therapist how do you kill time on the internet Picking Your Battles: Winning Strategies for Raising Well-Behaved Kids
0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. Full of great tips and infoBy ChristieNDPicking Your Battles has some great parenting tips. Maslin is practical in her advice and lost of the techniques have worked with my 3.5 year old.0 of 1 people found the following review helpful. Condition not as describedBy KarenThe book was listed as in very good condition, but has writing and underlines throughout, from the inside front cover on. This can be very distracting when you are trying to read. The seller should have described the condition more appropriately.5 of 5 people found the following review helpful. Bonnie Maslin's Picking Your BattlesBy Subathra BalaguruI bought this book after reading the reviews and hoped and crossed fingers that this book would help me to get back to how I was before I became a mother or at least help me to be a good mother and not a nagging old witch that I have now become.Well I'm glad I did! I have two boys, one nine and the other twelve...and after reading the book I wished I had the book before I even gave birth to either of them. There's lots of valuable information on raising kids and how to discipline them. It also helps us to identify what type of parent we are and how to rate the behavioral breach.. but I especially liked the part about looking at our children and seeing them as a "work in progress" and "person under construction"., so whatever we do and say just remember this and it actually helped me better to deal with them.I had some trouble with my younger one, one morning (yup!just before going to school). He was moody, cranky and scolding me and everyone in the room about how we must have misplaced one of his workbooks.,etc, etc.... and I decided to try one of Bonnie Maslin's kidology ..and What she said "No matter how angry I get with you or how furious you get with me, we will always love each other. There is always love after anger." In my own words of course, but the intention and the feeling conveyed, and the hug I gave him, actually did calm him down.What surprised me most was that he called me at work from school to say he had found the book and that he was sorry about what happened in the morning! Can you believe it a nine year old boy taking his break time to call me to apologize!!There were many more incidents that happened with my children and Bonnie Maslin's words of wisdom came in really handy.(Mind you I got the book only three weeks ago)Don't wait till you have children to read this book and get ideas on how to raise children, do it when you are expecting/planning them. It is an extremely useful tool for parents dealing with everday issues like misbehaviour and anger and even the more serious ones like lying. More importantly though to set reasonable expectations of our children whom we love so dearly.