About the AuthorJamye Waxman, M.Ed started her professional career as a radio producer. From there, she launched into the field of human sexuality and relationships as both a sex educator and media personality. Jamye is currently pursuing an MA in counseling psychology and a PhD in human sexuality education.Jamye is a sought-after-speaker and media consultant who has been interviewed by top media outlets including Forbes, Womens Health, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Heeb, The Doctors, MTV, Playboy TV, and The History Channel. She is also a regular contributor to Playgirl magazine.Jamye is the author of Getting Off: A Womans Guide to Masturbation and the co-author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. She lives in Northern California. why do you read How to Break Up With Anyone: Letting Go of Friends, Family, and Everyone In-Between
8 of 9 people found the following review helpful. wise, honest advice for challenging friendship momentsBy @EstherKJamye's super-smart and accessible advice is easy-to-read, relatable and entertaining. She gives practical advice not just from her own experience as a relationships and sex therapist, but having surveyed many others on their techniques and strategies. But really, beyond the "how to," she examines the "why" - why do people grow apart, concentrating not just on the typical relationship breakups but the drifting apart of friendships, the souring of those relationships through distance or differentiation or the fluctuations of life's demands and interests. She even includes a chapter on breaking up with your gender, a subject which I've never considered but is apparently a helpful frame for many who struggle.One thing I wish weren't missing: content about what to do when/how to cope with realizing that you've been broken up with, and you've tried to repair things, and the relationship just goes away. The grief after that is a hard thing to deal with - maybe that's a whole other book. :)And as someone who knows Jamye personally, I can vouch for the fact that this is her authentic voice - honest, funny and sensitive. Consider this a way to access her wisdom, even if you haven't met her in real life. :)5 of 6 people found the following review helpful. If you're the kind of person who'd want to read this book, you'd probably find it less than helpful.By Marshmallow CremeThis book barely told me anything I didn't already know. Elaborate explanations of why people might want to end a (non-romantic) relationship felt redundant, as if the book were written specifically for a person who never considered the possibility of terminating a relationship, not someone who picked up the book looking for insight on an issue with which he or she is struggling. The book spends a lot of time substantiating Why break ups as a general term could extend beyond the romantic, but again, if we're picking up this book with any seriousness, that concept has probably already occurred.Obviously toxicity in a relationship means it's either time to end things or it isn't. That's not insight.Obviously people often blame others because they don't want to take personal responsibility for their own actions. Isn't that kind of the definition of blame?Obviously it could be awkward breaking up with a friend when you have mutual friends, and, obviously you can go to the party or not go to the party in which the ex-friend will be there... what exactly are you trying to tell me, Jamye? That every break up is different and how to approach it is relative? That things will kind of happen in one way, or another? Because that doesn't exactly meet my definition of "how- to."There's really nothing substantial in this book about processing the difficult feelings around breaking up (listen to sad songs. Write a letter and don't send it, or do, etc). There is, at least, a little bit here that validates a person's desire to end a non-romantic relationship...but it feels like more an examination of some relate-able scenarios of why a relationship could feel toxic, and some testimony that people felt better when the relationship ended.But I suspect most readers already know that. I suspect most people who feel compelled to purchase this book are already at a point with someone in which they feel like the relationship can't continue, already aware of the ways in which the relationship feels not-good anymore, already possessing the willingness to say "this is over" but looking for advice on HOW to say it, not a cursory overview of some pretty obvious options like "tell the person you want to break up permanently" or maybe consider you just want to take a break for a little while. Or maybe just Don't tell them and just do it.I felt frustrated reading this, despite the quick and approachable language, it felt like filler, and a waste of my time.I wish I could give an alternate book to suggest, but being someone in the middle of a "break up" with a former roommate and once close friend, I found nothing useful. Neither did I get any clarity on how to get closure around the slow breakup with a sister that's never been made official even when we've spent the last two years not talking about the fact that we've stopped talking.0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. The author, a sex educator and relationship expert, focuses this useful book on non-romantic breakups.By Blaine GreenfieldThe author, a sex educator and relationship expert, focuses this useful book on non-romantic breakups. She covers those involving cults, social media, careers and even your gender.I especially liked a boxed section on actions to help you feel better in dealing with the break up blues, including:Stay off social media. If someone you see on Facebook or other social media sites breaks up with you, remove yourself from the online presence. Seeing their daily whereabouts will make it harder to accept the situation and can also make you feel bad about not being a part of their life. Don't receive mutual friends' updates. ... Write a letter and never mail it. If you feel like you didn't get the closure you desired, then writing a letter to your "ex-bestie" can be pretty cathartic. It can be a meaningful exercise and give you a chance to articulate what you are feeling and get it out of your system.In addition, the last chapter on "Navigating the Aftermath" was spot on.If you're faced with having to go through a break up and/or you've gone through one, HOW TO BREAK UP WITH ANYONE will make things easier for you.