From Publishers WeeklyWant to know if your parents are financially obligated to pony up for your dream wedding or if your cousin is owed your recently deceased mother's painting though there is no mention of it in her will? Chances are someone has already asked and received an answer on how to deal with it from Money magazine and CNNMoney Web site contributors Fleming and Schwarz. They cover nearly every point and question of financial etiquette and fiscal ethics in this advice collection. Breaking the monotony of page after page of questions and answers are statistical results from a Money Magazine poll regarding financial attitudes toward family and friends, along with results from a survey the authors commissioned separately. General rules of thumb are also offered on such topics as evaluating loan requests and what exactly should be included when putting private loan agreements into writing. While a highly useful book to have as a reference, receiving it as a gift could represent a not so subtle hint that a change in behavior is needed. (Jan.) Copyright Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved. "Fleming and Schwarz cover an impressive range of money problems we'd all like to think we can rise above but which can divide whole families, including our own...The authors begin the book by asking provocatively: "Which would you rather have: a relative ask you for a large loan, or a bad case of the flu?" Those honest enough to answer "flu" might consider reading this book out loud on a family vacation and discussing its various insights." -- Barron's"[I]t is a great coffee-table volume. Leave it out, and it will surely stir up some interesting discussions and debates...Using a question-and-answer format, Fleming and Schwarz have produced a handbook to help diffuse uncomfortable and potentially hostile situations that come when you mix money and personal relationships...The authors cover a lot of ground, from borrowers and lenders behaving badly, to handling gifts that come with strings attached, to getting through wedding-bill blues. " -- The Washington Post how big would wikipedia be if it was a book Isn't It Their Turn to Pick Up the Check?: Dealing with All of the Trickiest Money Problems Between Family and Friends -- from Serial Borrowers to Serious Cheapskates
0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. The title is misleading for sure!By Laurie A.The book does address the issue, (isn't it their turn to pick up the check) but it does not really offer much in techniques or solutions to stop or avoid the problem. I felt the authors were more sympathetic to the people who expect YOU to always carry the load, they say things like " if you can afford to you should"! Anyway, nothing new in the book, I do not recommend this if you are looking for answers, but it surely is dead on with example's of how people expect you to always cover them as they assume you can so you should .......3 of 3 people found the following review helpful. don't lend this to anyone.By Jacquelynn Wendelerthis is a funny but also serious read. it gives advice on all borrowing, to dining with cheapskates.if you lend this book to anyone in the borrower or cheapskate category, make sure you get a deposit from them. preferably the same amount the book cost, because you will probably never get it back and have to buy a new one.0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. great bookBy Pearl BaikaI Love the book the only tink was that I orderd 2 and it took quiet a while to get the 2nd one .