About the AuthorElizabeth Landers has been the general manager of the San Francisco Daily Journal, a stockbroker, a banker, the president of San Francisco Hadassah, and a full-time mother. She lives in Grosse Pointe, Michigan, and New York City. Vicky Mainzer has been a nurse, an event planner, a hospital director of volunteers, and a full-time mother. A community service leader, she was recently named a Brightest Star of Idaho by Governor Kempthorne. She now resides in her hometown of Pocatello, Idaho. what items sell best on The Script: The 100% Absolutely Predictable Things Men Do When They Cheat
43 of 44 people found the following review helpful. Good info, but disagreed with adviceBy ElisabethThis book is divided into 2 parts. Part 1 is the script a man follows when contemplating committing adultery and when already committing it. Part 2 is the script he follows when leaving his wife for his mistress and what his life is like once with her.In Part 1, the authors advise women to act like doctors, treating the pain early while the problem is still "small". This entails either stopping a man from committing adultery or if he already has, stopping him from leaving with the mistress. They accomplish this by being attractive, keeping the home neat and comfortable, and showing him lots of appreciation and attention.The problem with this advice is it implies men cheat because of something a woman lacks...when really, it's what the cheater lacks: good character. When people have good character, they solve problems by being honest and playing fair.The other problem with this advice is it encourages women to compete with mistresses, which is unrealistic. Unless a wife is willing to absolve men of all marital and parental responsibilities, she can't mimic what he has with a mistress. Again, this is more focus away from the real problem (lack of good character) in favor of quick fix solutions.Another problem was telling women to be grateful if a man communicates in a rude and critical way because at least he's communicating. But that's not communicating; that's bullying. Rationalizing hurtful behavior pardons a man from growing up, which he could do if given the chance. There's no guarantee, of course. He could still run off with a less challenging woman, but at least she handled the situation with her dignity intact.In Part 2, the advice gets better. If a man is leaving, they tell women to protect their assets and stick up for themselves. However, in the last section of the book, when describing a man's life with his mistress, their advice falls apart again.Here they warn a man that if he leaves his wife, things won't work according to his plan. He won't get all the property he thought he would, he won't get to play with his wife's friends anymore, married couples will shun him because his lifestyle threatens theirs, and sex with his mistress won't be any better than with his wife.Even if all this is true, his staying has nothing to do with cherishing and respecting his wife for who she is an individual. Instead, it's about using her to keep certain perks of married life.There's so much focus on preventing this man from leaving, but not enough on why he's worth fighting for in the first place. These men seemed too immature for an adult relationship. If dinner wasn't ready when they got home, they didn't consider their wife being too busy taking care of kids and other responsibilities. If their advice wasn't taken without question, they didn't consider their wife's right to question it.I still gave this book 3 stars because it's important to expose a cheater's game. I just disagreed on how to deal with those games.7 of 8 people found the following review helpful. Something You Need to KnowBy Natalie DressedI wish The Script had been around years ago, before I was stunned by my husband taking me out to dinner to celebrate my new job, then telling me that he wanted a divorce during the salad course. I would have caught on much quicker as to why he had been so supportive of my return to college for a degree in a new field of work: his next wife was waiting in the wings. Instead, I learned the hard way -- but you don't have to.In my opinion, this powerful little book should be read not only by wives with suspicions but by girlfriends and fiancees with doubts. My own post-marital dating experiences have proven the correctness of the authors' premise: There is a distinct, age-old pattern of thought, speech and behavior -- a script -- that men who are cheating follow to the letter, although few realize it. If you know what to look and listen for, you can be proactive about nipping a potential affair in the bud (always the best move but not promoted enough here; thus the lower rating). Failing that, you will be better prepared to stand up for yourself, your rights and your kids if a breakup occurs or divorce is inevitable. The authors' examples, advice and tips are right on.Remember this: No matter what happens, know that you are not crazy (even if he tells you and everyone else that you are); that it's okay to trust your gut and take action if something doesn't feel right; and seek professional advice quickly to (re)take control of your situation and prepare for the future.0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. unhappyBy Over 6,000 purchasescame missing several pages and tons of ink underlines