.com 8 Things You'll Learn from Queen Bee Moms Kingpin DadsRosalind Wiseman was gracious enough to give us a sneak peek at the advice found in her new book, and we're kind enough to share. So, if you've ever found yourself in any of the following situations, Queen Bee Moms Kingpin Dads is the book for you: 1. Your kid, who attends every practice diligently, gets lots of "pine time" on the bench, while other kids who aren't nearly as good get more play time. Should you say anything to the coach? 2. Your daughter fights with her best friend, who shuts her out of the clique. The best friend's Mom says, "I really think the girls should work it out, don't you?" 3. An angry father shouts down the principal at the PTA meeting, saying, "I know I speak for all parents here when I say..." while you disagree completely. Should you speak up? 4. You walk by two women and overhear them saying about a girl nearby, "She looks like such a slut." That's your daughter they're talking about. Should you confront them? 5. Your son goes to a party where there's drinking. When the cops bust up the party, your kid gets suspended too, even though he wasn't drinking. Should you protest? 6. Your daughter doesn't get invited to "the" party of the season, which is being given by one of her good friends. Should you call the other mother? 7. They're putting the squeeze on you to join yet another school committee, but you're already stretched thin with your full-time job. How can you say no? 8. The principal busts your kid for cheating, and now his chances for getting into a good college are ruined. It was a one-time offense, and you think the principal is making too big a deal of the incident. Should you challenge the school to get it expunged from his high school transcript? how many romance books are there Queen Bee Moms Kingpin Dads: Dealing with the Difficult Parents in Your Child's Life
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful. Honest and DetailedBy Elizabeth MehlingHere I was thinking that I was the only one who is aware of parenting "types" and "cliques". This book is a very thorough and well-observed look into the world of contemporary parenting and how it has become a battlefield. When parents say that it's "for the kids", is it really for the children, or does it only serve to inflate the parent's ego? The author describes "Perfect Parent World" as a place where the husband has a high-income 9-to-5 job but still makes time for coaching little league or helping out at the school football game; mom shops at Ann Taylor and is president of the PTA, Girl Scout Troop Leader, and head of the Middle School Dance Committee; and the kids have perfect grades, do their homework without being asked, don't do drugs, don't have sex, volunteer constantly, have plenty of friends, and are completely sane.Now, as you can imagine, "Perfect Parent World" is an image in which many modern Americans are trying to emulate. But, as explained in the book, it's virtually impossible. Children are not our property and they are not a trophy. I see it too often these days where parents are fighting each other over something they believe to be in their child's "best interest". Meanwhile, the kids are rolling their eyes or sitting in the corner crying over how embarrassing and pressuring everything is.But not all of the parent "profiles" in this book are Kingpin Dads or Queen Bee moms. There are the quiet ones who are pushed into things and never get recognition, and the outcasts who are shunned by other parents because they don't live in the "right" neighborhood or go to the "right" church. And then there are the parents who are pushovers and let the kids do anything they want, which only ends up spelling trouble for them when the other parents find out.This book should be in the house of every parent in America. It exposes the severe problems that contemporary parenting are causing for the kids, and offers solutions as to how you can start looking upon your kid as a human being rather than a trophy, mainly because so many parents don't even realize that they're doing it.Truly a wonderful read; the parents in this country need a serious wake-up call!0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. GroundingBy mamabeartxI took almost a whole school year to finish this book. I picked it up whenever a confusing situation came up at my kids' school--with other parents, with teachers and/or the administration. Wiseman helped me to trust myself, encouraged me to speak my truth proactively and only to the people I needed to, and then to let it go.Mostly, this book helped me to see more clearly the various competing interests at school. I am now less likely to be "played" by other parents, and more likely to recognize the limits of the school to make things perfect for everyone. This book also helped me to grieve some unfairnesses I wasn't able to influence, like the crappy, verbally abusive sports dad the athletic director refused to stand up to.0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. Very InterestingBy CustomerThis was very informative and helped me to understand a lot about my relationships within my family and with my co-workers and friends.