what is bookhub Grow Your Marriage By Leaps and Boundaries
0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. Insightfully written and deeply enrichingBy Moroni LeashDr. Cook has written an excellent book on finding and setting important personal and couples boundaries. Every relationship needs boundaries and standards in order to feel safe and thrive, and this book helps couples discover them in advance, rather than waiting for distressing situations and issues to arise before stumbling over gaps and misunderstandings belatedly. Dr. Cook reviews areas such as friendships, workplace colleagues, email, Facebook, text messaging, and a great many other communication and interaction domains individuals and couples will want to explore. How should an individual respond to opposite-gender attention, flattery, or even "innocent flirting"? Is it appropriate to have recurring one-on-one lunch breaks with an opposite-gender colleague? How do you handle somewhat personal text messages? Issues such as these are covered in great detail in this text, and each chapter offers workbook-like sections to help couples explore their own standards. Of considerable value are the excellent vignettes, situational examples, and the sage advice and suggestions found liberally throughout the book. At first glance, I thought there might be little new information in this book, and some sections I truly had meaningfully thought through previously. However, I quickly discovered considerable insightful information that was new to me and very meaningful to ponder and share. I very much recommend this book for all couples, even those married many years. It will help you preserve and strengthen your most important assets: your spouse and your family.1 of 1 people found the following review helpful. Even Good for Good Marriages!By Piano ladyI'm not used to conflict in my marriage but my husband are in a unique situation where fostering children has opened the door for adopting children and my husband and I are not currently on the 'same page'. We are religious and both continue to pray for guidance on what is best for our family. I had a friend remind me that although my heart is wrapped around these three little princesses now in our home, my marriage is the most important thing and my husband comes first. So, I was motivated to read this book to gain perspective on how to keep that priority in place. Even good things can threaten a marital relationship if it is not the right thing at the right time and accepted by both parties.What has helped me the most is the dialog in each chapter. I realized, humbly, that I am not skilled in communicating when there is a stress or conflict. Sometimes Dr. Cook starts with an example of how a conversation typically would go when couples are not 'on the same page'. Then he gives another example of how it could have gone better and explains why. Often, he even adds a third and 'best' example of how to communicate when their is conflict in a specific situation. Just this valuable insight into effective communicating while under stress has made my purchase of this book worth it.I also realized that there are things that I do, innocently enough, that could make my husband feel second to someone else. Dr. Cook covers many 'boundary' possibilities but in a way that is not preachy or all-inclusive. He encourages couples to consider what is appropriate for their relationship, encouraging them to think about and communicate thoughts and feelings by putting specific questions and activities in each chapter. Sometimes these boundaries seem like such little things, but it's the little steps that take you to your destination, whether it be a happy marriage or infidelity or divorce.There was so much thought-provoking wisdom in this book, I highly recommend it, especially to newly weds and anyone who wants their marriage to be joyful.I haven't read a lot of self-help books, other than parenting books, to compare this one to others on the topic of marriage, but I'm giving it five stars because I was so impressed with how invaluable it is and can be for anyone in a relationship or wanting to be in a successful relationship.0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. Tremendous book. There are many insightful nuggets of wisdom ...By E. B.Tremendous book. There are many insightful nuggets of wisdom. Jerry is a genius.