"Rose Ainsworth, the protagonist in my novel,The Pregnant Pause, would have benefited greatly from readingMotherhood-Is It For Me?Like many women, Rose is making herself miserable trying to decide whether to become a mother. The authors of this step-by-step guide recognize that not every woman knows for certain whether she wants children and sends the message that having mixed feelings is okay - a message that women who are struggling with this life-altering decision need to hear. The twelve chapters include real-life examples, self-discovery exercises, guided visualizations and self-care suggestions. Miserable about motherhood indecision? Conflicted about conceiving? Read this book!"~ Jane Doucet, author,The Pregnant Pause"Women considering whether to have a child have an invaluable resource inMotherhood-Is It for Me? This book is a 12-week program designed to evoke emotional experiences and discoveries. The authors are the guides on this experiential trek, reminding and reassuring every step of the way that there are no correct or incorrect answers, only perceptions and experiences. If those can be uncovered, clarity will come.Right from the start, the reader feels the authors' comforting, patient, and supportive voice. Like being in the presence of a good therapist, the authors evoke a sense of spaciousness and an invitation to slow down and reflect.Guided visualizations offered each week are designed to help access unconscious material. Concurrent exercises are offered to help process the emotions and revelations that emerge.I feel quite confident that anyone who takes the time and effort to do the program will be significantly benefited. After working the program in this book, one is surely to gain not only a fuller understanding of one's relationship to motherhood, but a deeper self-knowledge and self-awareness.This book is a gem; offering life sustaining tools for creating inner space so that deep listening and knowing can happen."~ Jacqueline Ward, PhD, Clinical Psychologist, San Francisco, California"For many, the motherhood decision is a given. For some, the decisionnotto have children is just as clear. But for all the other women, currently struggling with the 'Should I or shouldn't I...become a mom?'question, I highly recommend this book. I could have saved myself a lot of time and energy that was spentthinkingabout the decision, if the brilliant book,Motherhood-Is It For Me? had existed. Even though I read the book after my decision was made, I found it extremely useful in helping me makeanothermajor life decision. Right off the top, Carlini and Davidman explainthe difference between determining one'sdesire and making one'sdecision. So often we get caught up in trying to MAKE a decision before we've taken the time to really know what it is we trulywant...and that goes for anything in life, not just motherhood." ~ Maryanne Pope, author of A Widow's Awakening,playwright of Saviour, screenwriter of God's Country, executive producer of documentary, WhateverFloats Your Boat...Perspectives on Motherhood, CEO ofPink GazelleProductionsand Chair of theJohn Petropoulos Memorial Fund. From the AuthorThe book contains 13 guided visualizations. They are pre-recorded for you. You can find them on the book's website at motherhood-is-it-for-me-the-book.com/gvs-audio what is the role of books in our life Motherhood - Is It For Me?: Your Step-by-Step Guide to Clarity
1 of 3 people found the following review helpful. Five StarsBy Customervery informative amazom customer0 of 3 people found the following review helpful. Time ConstraintsBy ivyleague4Unfortunately it doesn't state anywhere in the description that you have to do the exercises in the book over the course of at least a two month period; and that if you try and do them sooner this could prove to be detrimental. Some of us don't have that much time! I would have asked for a refund but this doesn't seem possible after 24 hours of purchase. A complete waste of $15.5 of 5 people found the following review helpful. Much Needed ResourceBy Sidney MullenWhere was this book when I needed to decide, in the early 80s, whether to have a child, and when? My sister, my cousin, so many friends come to mind they could have used this book too, either alone or with a group of other women. Now I can give it to my millennial daughter, to my son, and suggest this process to my clients as well.This book provides a non-judgmental decision-making process that supports a woman (or anyone considering whether to become a parent) to examine her own fears, hopes, and circumstances. This process helps the reader to evaluate the pressures exerted by family history, family members or social context, and make the decision that fits her.As a psychotherapist, sitting with people who must make important life decisions, I value tolerance for a period of ambivalence in the process of choosing a direction. What do ones own childhood memories bring to the decision, what do ones own mother, father and ones partner bring, and is there an internal pressure to say yes to other peoples requests, or is it possible to say no? Can these pressures cause a woman to sabotage her truth? What, will be lost, inevitably, when a choice has been made, and how does one come to terms with that?This book walks through these questions in such a gentle way, encouraging curiosity at every step. Curiosity is the thread I have found most useful in applying this method to other important decisions in my own life. Many thanks to Ann and Denise for sharing their labor of love with the world.