From Publishers WeeklyA simple 7-step program to deal with an emotionally or physically abusive loved one (spouse, parent, sibling or child) seems too easy to be effective. But Gentry is not a lightweight pop author; he is editor in chief of the Journal of Behavioral Medicine, and has been working with victims of what he calls "toxic" anger ("anger that is experienced far too often, is far too intense and lasts far too long") for decades. Believable case studies illustrate how Gentrys seven steps can work, and he accepts the irrationality of the love that makes people reluctant to leave such relationships (though if the other steps fail, he advises, it may be necessary to leave). Questionnaires and tables help readers evaluate their situation and answer such questions as "how angry is too angry?" He then offers sensible, tested steps, not to change the angry person, but to manage the anger and ones response to it, such as getting a support network and controlling ones own anger. Anyone in a toxic anger situation will benefit from Gentrys calm, wise advice.Copyright Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.About the AuthorW. Doyle Gentry, Ph.D., is an author, educator, scientist, consultant and clinical psychologist, whose career spans 30 years. His scholarly work-which includes over 100 professional and scientific publications-is cited as an authoritative source by top anger researchers and therapists. He lectures and gives workshops extensively, both in the United States and abroad. He is the Editor-in-Chief of the prestigious Journal of Behavioral Medicine, a post he has held for more than 25 years. how do books help us in life When Someone You Love Is Angry: A 7-Step Program for Dealing with Toxic Anger and Taking Back Control of Your Life
0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. Pinpoints problems, offers few solutionsBy Lauren M. Bloom"When Someone You Love Is Angry" is tremendously enlightening and affirming for those who are just coming to grips with a loved one's excessive anger. If you've ever wondered if you were just "too sensitive" or whether you were somehow responsible for triggering someone's rage, verbal or even physical attacks, this book will give you a dispassionate benchmark from which to evaluate your situation. If you're looking for clear proof that you really aren't crazy, "When Someone You Love Is Angry" is an absolute gem.Unfortunately, the book is less successful in offering strategies for managing rage in a relationship. It particularly falls short in offering solutions for adults who grew up in angry homes, acknowledging but never really addressing the challenges of dealing with an elderly parent's anger. Perhaps there are no obvious solutions for children of angry parents - not every problem can be fixed, after all - but "When Someone You Love Is Angry" would be even more helpful if it included more suggestions for dealing with rage.0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. Poor publishing job.By treehouseladyThe book fell apart page by page as I was reading it.0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. Living with an angry dadBy AlesiaThis book helped me understand anger and how toxic it is in relationships. I now feel more empowered after reading this book. Further, this book has helped me realize that I, too, need to work on more effectively expressing my anger.