"The best book available to help survivors cope and understand." -- Dan Sexton, Director, Childhelp's National Child Abuse HotlineFrom the Back Cover"The best book available to help survivors cope and understand." -- Dan Sexton, Director, Childhelp's National Child Abuse HotlineAbout the AuthorEliana Gilis the author of Outgrowing the Pain and Outgrowing the Pain Together.She has more than forty years of experience working with families and children in need of therapeutic services, and she has contributed to the study of mental and emotional health in children and families. In addition to her therapy services, she lectures, writes books and articles, and is involved with Gil Institute therapy services. Eliana Gil is also the director of the Starbright Institute, which trains other therapists in fields related to child therapy. what books should i read in year Outgrowing the pain: A book for and about adults abused as children
0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. Provides necessary basic understanding regarding processing abuseBy Michael P.A very good book to help adults process pain related to abuse from childhood. I benefited from it when I worked through mental suffering. I also used it to help abused children identify their own abuse and begin processing it--when I was a counselor.I have to say, however, I could never understand why some children/adolescents benefited from it and others not when I was a counselor. After retiring, I was converted and since then, I have come to believe that this book is very beneficial to one who also is born again. Psychology by itself just doesn't heal the soul. I know because, although my abuse was not nearly as extensive as the children I worked with, I struggled with worthlessness, inadequacy and such feelings and couldn't shake them even though I could see that I was thinking in a distorted manner; I could also identify my defense mechanisms.... This system helps with understanding abuse and reactionary feelings and behaviors...but it doesn't give hope. God's word and relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, give hope.4 of 4 people found the following review helpful. Worth the price and time to read.By LSL308My counselor recommended this book for me to read. I'm glad I took the time to purchase and read it. I have struggled for years not knowing why I was different from other people I know. I have also struggled with personal relationships throughout my whole life. I've always felt like I was different in a negative way from others. I never felt like I fit in with society as a whole. I've read other reviews on here, and I believe that some people expect to be "fixed" after reading this book. The author explains that if more help is needed that there are other books you can read, or to seek professional help. This book helps you to identify if you were in fact an abused child, and it helps to identify possible situations, or types of people you may have been or are now due to abuse. I could relate to what the author wrote in many ways. I think identifying the cause is a huge first step to any recovery of any kind, and there is no such thing as a quick fix. It's going to take time and effort from you and possibly your loved ones. I plan on reading this book a few times to help me identify more clearly what happened to me so I can go over these things with my counselor. I know it's going to take time, but I was able to finally read about why I am the way I am. I recommend this book to anyone who has struggled with thoughts of their past, and how it may be holding them back in their lives currently.0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. A must read!By Liz MacNearThis book helps validate, further explain and define abuse and it's impact. Whether you are just starting the journal of healing or have been on that road a long time, you will find the topics thoughtful, brief and insightful. I personally found it to be a great way to provoke more internal dialogue on my own healing process and my husband felt it gave him some insight into my life-long struggle.